Without Jesus, I am nothing…

Individualism =  a society in which the ties between individuals are loose: everyone is expected to look after himself or herself and his or her immediate family only. They are self-centred and emphasize mostly on their individual goals. They emphasize their success/achievements in job or private wealth and aiming up to reach more and/or a better job position.

Collectivism = a society in which people from birth onwards are integrated into strong cohesive ingroups, which throughout people’s lifetime continue to protect them in exchange for unquestioning loyalty. They have a great emphasize on groups and think more in terms of “we“.

Please visit http://www.via-web.de/individualism-vs-collectivism.html for more information.

As a Christian, I do not practice most of the beliefs and culture in Chinese society. All the pantang larang - taboos are meaningless to me… Sometimes, i see myself as an individualistic person. Many things seem unimportant to me; i only have to do the best for my own business and try not to bother or interrupting other’s life. This is the reason where i have fewer friends. I am not a person who very hardworking to keep friend and keep in touch with friend. Sometimes, i get to know their news too late for me to send my regard and care. I seldom make new friends. I am comfortable with my established friendship with those close to me. I believe that, they will keep me.

Sometimes, I see myself is in collectivism manner. The time I start to become crazy and hang on with friends… Generally, I am friendly and kind. I can talk to a stranger and give a hand to some one first met easily [my mom says these are dangerous]. ^_^ haha, it is true. I think most of the people likes to meet someone warm and friendly rather than someone who is being cautious on you in the first sight.  

Some people start to comment that i am too individualistic… TOO… haha, this might because i am focusing on my academic stuff; I am so brave to say no; I am so directing and demanding in academic stuffs; and maybe because I am scary and they scare to be in the same group with me or dealing with me…. I do not care actually. They can do what ever they want and i am doing my own part. They can choose to stay away from me and do not talk to me at all; even eyes contact… I try my best to please so many people in class already. If some of them want to blame me for those little things, I will say, ‘I am individualistic, as you said. So, I do not care’!

A friend can become a mate after they know each other well…

A mate can become a friend after break up? Definitely can.

1. Give both of you some times to cool down. Can be no message, no meeting and no contact at all.
2. Do not blame each other for what have been happened in your relationship. The cause of ending a relationship should be borne by both of you. Although usually there is a ‘victim’ and a ‘misconductor’.
3. Thinking of his/her goodness before the relationship starts to have problems. Definitely there are some sweet and unforgettable memories in your relationship. Remember and appreciate the happy moment that you both shared together.
4. Use the comfortable medium to start your first conversation after breaking up once you are ready. Some may able to meet, some may through phone, some may through chat room… The topic could be just greeting each other and talking about recent works.  You need not to hang on for meaningless silence.
5. Examine your feeling, thought toward him/her after the first contacting. You have to view your current condition after contacting him/her. Are you feeling better? Are you need more time for the second contact? Are you benefit from the contact with him/her? Write them down and be honest to yourself.
6. Days after, you can talk to him and be open to the cause of breaking up. There is not a debate session anymore. It is the time for you both to share the feeling and the difficulties in the relationship. Let yourself to be open, and not defending. Remember, the cause of ending a relationship should be borne by both of you.

These are the guidelines that can help you both back to the early stage of friendship. Usually, mate is initially your friend. So, do not let go a friend who has been became your mate before.

A mate can become a friend after break up? Definitely can, if you WISH so.

Really not feeling well both mentally and physically since come back to sarawak. Lecturers ald tell us to be prepared for this semester with over-load work tasks. Well, i am ready but cant affort it continuously. If u ask me whether i am stress or not… i will say, no. It is not stress, it is more to mentally tiredness. I still happy-go-lucky. ^_^

My time planning for this sememster

1. Counselling stuff ald takes my 14 hours a day - class, PTA, mini (actually ‘large’ lo) research, assignments, meeting supervisors and lecturers (plus waiting time), study (this is rarely)….

2. eating 2 hours a day (including travelling)…

3. entertainment 2-3 hours - my aquarium, mixing game, bobo game, drama, online (like posting a blog here and feed my pet at facebook)…

4. personal time 1 hour - haha, this is the time to brush teeth and take bath (2-3 times a day)

5. Sleeping - 4 hours lo….. this is what left over in 24-hour

haha, i know some people start to thinking of buy a rotan, call to marah, say i am padan muka for many reasons….. well, i am not going to deny that i may did something wrong.

Maybe i do not have good assignation skill in sharing with tasks with frens.

Maybe i am individualistic in doing assignment (i prefer individual assignment!!!!)

Maybe i am spending too many time in watching drama but not sleeping

Maybe i am poor in planning and structuring…

haha, these might affect my image as a future counsellor…. ^_^ I think, this only happen in this semester. at least, i still can rest at sunday night. hehe…

althought i have no much time to sleep, i have to post something here so that those miss me de can come to read my mix language and imagine my cute face… ^_^ hehe….dont argue with me about this issue, ok? I am CUTE in many ways… hahaha…

tat’s all for this post lo. keep in touch lo. if you message me for something unurgent and found i am not replying, maybe i am sleeping, busying with my stuff… or, I AM LAZY and TIRED… sorry for any inconvenience….

Haha, i know many people will feel disappointed when see nothing in my blog…

ok la, i will update my blog whenever i have time… even a short post. ^_^

Fell sick already and now is recovering…. still have many tasks to go, so cannot let myself sick for long period. Well, my mini research for convention is larger than i thought… Library research is tougher than i ever imagined… Anyway, there is no return point… Once start, have to meet the ending line… Academic tasks are really heavy and tired… Now then only i know why Ernest said Univesity will not easy easy give u a graduation cert… O_O

recently, my coursemates are curious about status…. relationship status… some are doubting that those do not have partner are either lesbian or gay…. well, to some extent, it is funny to listen to rumour… after a while, it is irratating…. Some may hurt and feeling annoying…. When people getting older, people start to ‘CONCERN’ about their partner… concern is a nice and soft word. Then, i say, i choose to break up with a guy because i am lesbian… haha…The collectivism culture in Malaysia is sometimes bothering people… Believe me, the gay or lesbian can find a boy or girl as his or her fake partner… is better to stop this topic before worsening the class climate…

Wow, i am missing my family so much…especially the Jc Tan and JQ Tan. ^_^ ok, i think i can go back at early of May… my exam schedule is so early… i have only 4 subjects have exams… convention, FInal Year Project only examined on the course work… ^_^

Again, i wish all my coursemate try the best in this semester… This is an extraordinary challenging semester… anyway, in positive way, we can, if we think we can! ^_^

从砂拉越回去沙登就开始忙了……见了那个肯定是长高了的弟弟，集聪明与气质于一身的单眼皮哥哥还有永远都那么可爱的阿牛……^_^ 之后也与Anand聚了一聚……短短的一个星期内，我已经让家有喜事，大喜事，和 Inkheart 赚我的钱了！ 想到Popcorn 都怕了…… ^_^ 时间过得非常得快；确确实实地如大家常说的光阴似箭，什么时候从你身边飞过都不知道! 最后只是剩下 III-_-

‘Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa? 又要回去了?!!!!!!’

回到砂拉越……………………很忙啊!!! 从星期一到今天为止都是0700-1900 的繁忙时间。到目前为止，我曾经试过从0645（起床）到2200 （做完功课）之间只吃了4颗FOX’s 的糖果。你一定会问，为什么这么不爱惜自己，真的这么忙吗，你是不是在减肥……其实，真的很多事情要处理。有一些状况并不容许我离开,然后去一个需要15分钟路程的地方吃东西。 来回会花掉不少时间的……相信曾经沉浸在课业讨论，资料搜寻的人会了解这种情况。写到这里，脑中闪过了几个人的面孔…… 担心我的人可以放心，我很健康哦！^_^ 觉得我时间处理上有问题的人也可以放心，因为我目前的状况源之于我在同一时间内有较多的责任和事项要处理。无话可说的人可以笑笑带过 ：p

haha, 忙碌了接近14 天了……我比较喜欢第一种的忙碌， ^_^  你会来读我的blog已经是对我的关心了。 谢谢你哦！

最后，告诉那些各自忙碌的人：”再忙也要量力而为因为你最了解你身体的极限！始终，健康是无价之宝” 加油咯，我的朋友们！